F4TFriday #50 – What I Know Now


What one part of your sex life today would most surprise the 18 year old you?

Probably that a slightly grumpy, antisocial person such as me is still lucky enough to have a pretty damn amazing sex life!

What one thing might shock that younger you?

I’m not sure there’s really much. Even from an early age my tastes and desires have been pretty much as they are now. The answer would probably be similar to question 1.

Is there anything in the younger you’s sexual ambitions or fantasies you have not yet fulfilled?

I have been more fortunate than I probably deserve through my life in that most of the fantasies I had, I achieved relatively early on in my life. There’s only one I have left and I’m pretty sure that is gonna be taken care of very soon😏

What part of the younger you’s sex life do you look back on with the most nostalgia?

I honestly can’t say I look back with a great deal of nostalgia because for me it’s just got better and better, especially this past year. I suppose there was the initial sense of wonder those first few times but apart from that nothing really.

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F4TF #10-Limits

Sexual limits are not exclusive to the world of BDSM, so with that in mind…

Is there something, (or things), that you would absolutely say no to in a sexual context?

What are your limits? Are they hard? Soft?

Have your limits changed over time?

It may surprise people to hear a guy say this, but something I would say no to is bringing an extra person into the bedroom. Realised many many years ago I’m not a team player and always keep it strictly one to one. Let’s me focus my attention entirely on the one I’m with. Same goes for any sort of “open relationship”. It ain’t for me.

As for limits, my hard limits are few but pretty clearly defined. No toilet play…..Eww! Age play is another no-no.
Needle play is somewhere I never tread. Surprising thing is, considering I have many tattoos, I’ve never been comfortable around needles.
As for soft limits, I can’t really think of any. I guess that’s the nature of soft limits, in my mind they are for pushing anyway.

Have my limits changed? Yes I would say they have. With the exception of my hard limits I’ve always been open to trying new things and like to think I’m always evolving.